Saturday, August 27, 2005
Egos the Size of the Grand Canyon
The nice thing about egotists is that they don't talk about other people. - Lucille S. Harper
What is an egotist?
An egotist is someone who is very much driven by their own sense of achievement and their own feeling of importance. Outwardly, they are quite keen to talk about themselves in glowing and positive terms and will seek the same from others. Similarly, an egotist will seek to gain credit for themselves, and it is not uncommon to do so at the expense of other people or by ignoring team efforts.
Relationships (personal and professional) with an egotist can also be rather difficult and stifling, as there is little room for them, their ego, and yourself. Never fear, while egotists can be rather frustrating, there are a few things you can do which will help.
1) Try and never take what an egotist says personally. Remember, it is not about you, it is about them.
2) Limit your time with the person, keeping conversations to a minimum when at all possible.
3) When the egotist gets your dander up, rather than add fuel to the fire, take a few deep breaths before commenting. Coming from a calm and rational place will help you to deal more constructively.
Most importantly, if you find yourself at wits end, find someone you can talk with. Someone who will lend an ear and some support. As always, you are welcome to share right here! Stories, comments, suggestions, and tips are always welcome!
Posted by Angee on 29/08/2005Angee, thank you for your kind comment. I truly appreciate your feedback. :)
Posted by Pam on 30/08/2005I often find that egotists have a child-like and childish view of the world and their place within it (usually the centre!)... sometimes thinking about how you would deal with a 5-year old under such circumstances, is not so very wide of the mark!
Posted by Jon on 30/08/2005