Pam, I am 54 years of age and I feel like I am going absolutely no where right now. I am stuck in what feels like a dead-end life. I am looking for a new direction, but have no idea where to start. What can I do??

I truly wish to thank you for sharing... by doing so you have taken an important step forward. Often in sharing with others we find not only the strength and support we need, but we often find solutions.

I greatly appreciate where you are right now and understand how difficult it is to feel stuck. While this may not feel like the best place to be, and maybe it even feels a tad overwhelming, where you are is an important place to be. The reason... it indicates that you are ready to make a change or a shift in your life.

What I would like to recommend at this time are the following suggestions:

1) Block out at least an hour (more if possible) where you can spend a bit of quiet time. If it means turning off the phone, going to your local library or a quiet spot outside, great. This is going to be your time! Time for some discovery so the less distractions the better.

During this time grab a piece of paper and pen and start making a list of all the things that excite you. Things that ignite a fire or that you feel passionate about it. Try not to analyze this list as you are making it, just free write and capture the things that come to the surface. After you are done with the list, put it in a safe place. Then in a few days time, take your list out and look it over.

Are there things on this list that you can do now? Things that will help you to change your direction. Is there something on this list that you are really passionate about, something that you could potentially do as a side project or even a new career? Are there activities on this list that you have always wanted to try, but never have for various and assorted reasons? If so, make a date with yourself to try one of these activities. If you are nervous about doing so, find a friend that would be willing to try your activity too.

2) If you are feeling stuck in your job, now would be a great time to take a look at all the wonderful skills you have to offer. Are there any skills that are not being utilized in your job? If so, brainstorm with a colleague and come up with a list of work-related activities that can  easily be created. For example, if you are a person who loves to throw parties and you are a fantastic cook, why not try to organize pot luck lunches on Fridays, where everyone brings a favorite dish along with the recipes to share. You would be amazed at some of the things that can develop (ideas, new roles, great friendships) from something that may seem relatively simple and basic.

As a final thought; try and remember that it is never too late for a change…no matter what age or stage you are in life. Change is a part of growth and can be fun. It can be a time of exploration. Most importantly keep sharing your thoughts and feelings, either with people you can trust or in a journal. Sharing is vital.

I wish you the very best and again, thank you for sharing!

Be well,

Pam