Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Now Aaron has compiled all the answers from each participant into a very helpful list. Please do check it out when you have chance.
Many thanks to Aaron for his efforts and to the following bloggers for their great contributions.
Chris Garrett on New Media
Live the Power
Creating a Better Life
Shards of Consciousness
Be the Change - Tread the Path
The Fast Lane
The Wrong Advices
Thoughts & Philosophies
Behind the Glasses
Pink Apple Connections
The Tall Poppy
The Inspired Market-Her's Blog
I'm Forty What??!!
Words of a Broken Mirror
Grow Your Writing Business
Conceive, Believe, Achieve
North Star Mental Fitness
Women Walking in Wisdom's Footsteps
Raymond L. Burton
I Captured a Blog
The Power of Trinity
Creating Abundant Lifestyles
Bionic Ear Blog
Home Biz Notes
Content Done Better
Keeping the Secret
The Silence is Golden
Beyond Horizon Coaching
The Urban Monk
Life Beside the Edge
A Creativist Journal
Made to be Great
Tennessee Text Wrestling
Writer in the Making
Christy's Coffee Break
Internet Marketing Sweetie
Business Advice Daily
Success from the Nest
Build a Better Blog
The Goat's Lunch Pail
Second Life Education Research
Rule of 5
Desmond's Personal Development Site
Money, Meaning, and Beyond
Jeri's Organizing & Decluttering News
Roni's Weight Watchen Page(s)
The Ted Rap
Just Another Weigh
Life is Good…Even When It's Not!
Ed Tech Journeys
Ezine Marketing Center
Dr. B's Blog
The Official Weblog of Henry Jenkins
The Sovereign Journey
Adventures of a Suburban WAHM
A Teacher's Life
Around the Corner v2
Do I Dare Disturb the Universe?
In Another Place
Life is not a Race to be First Finished
Evenstar Houses of Healing
The Maverick Marketer
Kathy Schrock's Kaffeeklatsch
Affordable Internet Marketing
All About Music Blog
World Copywriting Blog
Out of the Blog, Into the Light
Writing White Papers
Joe Dale - Integrating ICT
The BizTechie Chronicles
The Destination is Success…
5 Star Affiliate Programs
Law of Attraction Blog
Living Out Loud
The Daily Positive
Think Positive Blog
The Growing Edge
Energies of Creation
Ramblings from a Glass Half Full
Sunday, May 27, 2007
Back in November I purchased the greatest litte cards from a booth at the ICF Conference. Rather than let these gems continue to collect dust on my desk, it is time to put them to good use.
So here's the deal; this category is dedicated to inspiring words and any actions that can be taken to incorporate the chosen word into your day-to-day. My hope is that you have some fun with these words and maybe learn something new about you.
When I hear the word "safe" the following comes to mind...
My nice warm bed
A heartfelt hug
All these things leave me with a very warm and secure feeling.
What does the word "safe" mean to you? What does safe look like? What does it feel like?
Is there anything in your life that does not feel safe or as safe as it could? If so, how can you make it safe for you?
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Yesterday I was buying a birthday gift for a dear friend when I stumbled upon this sweet little book based on Lee Ann Womack's song "I Hope You Dance". Sometimes there are lyrics that resonant and really hit you right where it counts most...in the heart.
Be in a state of curiousity. It is in that state that we learn and see the potential opportunities.
Maintain determination. With determination and a hunger for more, intentions, dreams, and goals receive a fighting chance to become reality.
Never take anything for granted. Everything that happens (good and not so good) and everything we have is something to be grateful for. Being grateful, especially for the good stuff helps to bring more good stuff.
Keep trying and never take the easy way out. When we try and and when we face challenges, not only do we grow, we also achieve.
Take chances. You never know what might happen when you take a chance. Remember, you have more to gain than you do to lose.
Love. Most importantly love yourself. When you love yourself for all that you are and all that you possess it makes loving others even better.
When you have the choice between sitting out or dancing, which will you choose?
It is my wish that you choose to dance. It's fun!
Until next time, be well and enjoy the dance.
Monday, May 14, 2007
...to chew on and ponder this bright Monday morning. I just received this juicy morsel from Tut's Adventurers Club;
Having a dream.........................................Courage.
Visualizing your dream.................................Persistence.
Physically moving towards your dream...................Guts.
Letting go of the "cursed hows"........................Wisdom.
The look on your friends' faces, as they
watch you on "Entertainment Tonight"...................Priceless.
Inspiring, don't you think? Try it on for size.
Sunday, May 13, 2007
Let's face it there is not a person on this earth that does not or has not experienced an energy drain. You know the heaviness that creeps in when we are participating in or allowing something that is negative or counter-productive.
The boss that always asks for the impossible.
The friend who takes and takes without giving anything in return.
The colleague who always sees the glass as half empty.
The mess in the closet.
The dirty car.
You get the idea, right?
So here's your Go Big or Go Home Question to ponder...
What energy drain will you say "no, nope, no way, no more" to starting today?
Lightening the load and plugging those drains is important to not only your well-being, but your own forward movement.
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
Words could not possibly describe the beautiful work done by this amazing organization, A Place Called Home.
Have a look at this awesome video and I think you will understand what I mean.
Saturday, May 05, 2007
When we stand in a place of judgment we run the risk of missing out on something truly amazing. Something that can have an impact. Something that can change a life forever.
When we stand in a place of judgment we run the risk of closing ourselves off from a growth opportunity. We may even miss out on a learning opportunity that will serve us well now and in the future.
When we stand in a place of judgment we run the risk of not getting to know an incredible person. Could that person be you? Could that person be a potential best friend or soul mate?
Have a gander at this incredibly inspiring and controversial mini-movie. Tell me... what do you see?
Thursday, May 03, 2007
...simple act to make a huge difference. Think about it! What if you could do just one simple thing and that one simple thing made a great impact?
The good news is you can and there is a wonderful website that will support you in doing so. The really cool thing is, if you are at a loss for ideas on that one simple thing to do, One Simple Act provides new ideas each week. Not only that, you can see the difference you and your friends make because the website helps to keep track.
What do you say? You have everything to gain and nothing to lose so why not check it out today. Your one simple act could make someone's day, not to mention a great big impact.
Sunday, April 29, 2007
As promised last week, here are the “antidotes” (if you will) to the Top Ten List of why we DO NOT step into our own greatness.
** Limiting beliefs- First it is important to know that everyone has experienced limiting beliefs. So if you are experiencing a few please know that you are not alone and there is definitely not something wrong with you.
A dear friend and colleague of mine once said to me that all beliefs, limiting or otherwise have a pay off. If they didn’t, we would not hold on to them. With that said, I want to encourage you to take a good look at your own limiting beliefs. Picking one, ask yourself, “what is the pay-off for holding on to this belief?” After you have looked at all the pay-offs, I would like to request that you take that limiting belief and turn it into a positive belief. For example, if the limiting belief is “I can never lose weight, because I don’t have any will power.” The positive belief might be, “I can lose weight, because I am a strong and determined.” After creating a more positive belief, think of three things that you would be willing to do to take action in support of your new belief…To set it into motion.
** Nay-sayers - People often respond from their own place of fear, or what I like to call negative filter. What you may be hearing from the nay-sayer is their feelings of lack. Now here is something to consider, a teacher and coaching colleague once said, “It is none of your business what others think of you” and I will add that it is your business what you think of you and what you do. So bear that in mind the next time someone poo-poos you or your desires.
** The past and revisiting of the past - Why relive something that was really hurtful unless you plan on learning from it? When we sit square in the past it is really difficult to be in the here and the now. It is in the here and the now when we are able to see the potentials and opportunities. The present truly is a gift so it is my wish that you leverage the present, sit in it and enjoy the potentials. If you find yourself slipping into the past, give this little gratitude exercise a whirl…take three deep breathes and look around…very quickly, list three things you see that you are grateful for.
** Lack of clarity around who we are or what we want - If you are lacking clarity around who you at your core, please know it is not a terrible thing. Instead, look at it as your opportunity to take some time to do some exploring…exploring you – your likes and dislikes. As a matter of fact, last month I did a blog show which was all about getting to the who of who you are so I would love to invite you to have a listen.
However, if you are lacking clarity around what you want, here is a great exercise that I learned from James Arthur Ray, the author of The Science of Success and a teacher in The Secret. Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. On the left side of the paper start listing all the things you don’t you want in your life. Then on the right side of the page, write the absolutely opposite for each item from the left side of the page. For example, if on the left you wrote "debt" on the right you might write "financial abundance".
** Fear - This is another huge one for a lot of people. I am going to throw something out there and let’s see how it lands. Fear does not reside in the present. Fear only resides in the future and in the past. Which means, when you are feeling fearful give the gratitude exercise that I mentioned earlier a whirl and see what happens. Being in an attitude of gratitude prevents the brain from traveling down a path of fear because the brain cannot focus on good and bad at the same time.
Now, I am going to group a few items together…
** Unwillingness to take responsibility for our own actions, Excuses (i.e. no time, not enough money) and, The If Onlys…
It is time to get a new story, my friends. You have more control and responsibility over your own life then you may think. If you are a person that is quick to place blame on external factors or make excuses, my first request is that you go easy…especially on you. When you place blame on others or make excuses, you are really discounting your own self and your own ability to be an amazing creator of your own story. So, with that, when you catch yourself placing blame, making excuses or saying…"If only I was" or "If only I had", stop, take a deep breath and consider why you’re choosing to place blame, make an excuse or if only yourself. Are you feeling fearful? Are you feeling guilty about something? Instead why not try using the particular situation as a learning experience. Stop and ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation? OR How can I re-write this story?
** Lack of focus on self and needs because we fear being viewed as selfish. My friends, I am here to tell you that it is A-OK to take time for you. To recharge your battery, refuel and give to yourself. You are not being selfish by wishing to take care of you in order to be the best you can be. Besides how can you be productive or an amazing resource if you are totally drained? Think about it.
** Inaction – Not taking action towards the things we want, but rather waiting for things to just happen. In order to step into greatness you have to be willing to take action. If there are things you wish to have or wish to make happen in your life, but are not sure what actions to take, why not try putting this simple question out there, “How can I *fill in the blank*?”…How can I create more passion in my life? How can I become financially independent? Then let the question go, but remember to remain present to all the potential insights that may come your way. If that does not work for you, find someone you can trust and share your desires with them. Then brain storm a strategy for action. Be sure to include a date for when you wish to achieve and complete the action. Oh, and very important, for each action accomplished, be sure to celebrate you and all your efforts because you are worth celebrating.
It’s time to step into your greatness Whatcha waiting for?
Until next time, please be well and keep making a difference…
Monday, April 23, 2007
I was recently asked how I define greatness…and for me it has always been a feeling or a sense of empowerment and peace. But to put it into words, to me greatness is being who you need to be for you, getting clear on what you want and being willing to take action in order to bring the things you want into your life. (That is where the empowerment and peace comes into play.)
I truly love this topic because it is always really awesome when someone discovers something phenomenal about themselves…something that supports them in gaining clarity around the things they want, excelling them forward and creating the life they desire.
If stepping into greatness is so awesome, why aren’t we all doing it all the time? In response, I have drafted a Top 10 list of reasons why…
1) Limiting beliefs. Those niggling, negative thoughts that often hold us back. The thoughts that we hide behind and that stand in our way of moving forward.
2) Nay-sayers. The people, who, bless their hearts, try and persuade us that our dreams, intentions, who we are, what we want is not good enough, not attainable, or maybe even stupid.
3) The past and revisiting of the past. Re-running those old tapes, messages, and negative images that make us feel really low.
4) Lack of clarity around who we are or what we want. If you think about the process of stepping into your greatness as a map, it is truly difficult to move forward without a clear understanding of your own capabilities or what I like to consider your vehicle and the direction you wish to head in.
5) Fear, fear that we might get all that we desire and not be able to live up to our new found greatness. This one is a biggie, because no one wants to get a taste of greatness and then have it disappear.
6) Unwillingness to take responsibility for our own actions. Placing blame on others or external factors for the things that do not go well in our lives.
7) Lack of focus on self and needs because we fear being viewed as selfish.
8) Excuses (i.e. no time, not enough money)
9) The If Onlys…if only I had..if only I were..
10) Inaction – not taking action towards the things we want, but rather waiting for things to just happen.
So, if you feel that you have not stepped into your greatness just yet, I want you to consider these questions, what is standing in your way? What’s hindering your forward movement towards greatness? What are you willing to do to let your greatness come through? Tune in next week when I will provide the “antidote” to the Top 10 list.
In the meantime, please feel free to share your thoughts! Be well and have a blast stepping into your greatness…
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
As people try to get their heads around the tragedy that took place at VA Tech yesterday please take some time today...
...to hug your child/children very close.
...show a loved one just how much you care.
...express gratitude to a friend for being a friend.
...share some kindness with a perfect stranger because the world could certainly use a little kindness.
Please be well and safe.
Sunday, April 15, 2007
Sometimes it is all too easy to blame what goes wrong in our lives on past events and people rather than take responsibility as the sole creator of our own reality.
I raise my hand and admit that I used to blame whatever went wrong in my world on my family, the way I was raised, and the experiences I had growing up. As a matter of fact, when something would go wrong I would say something along the lines of, “If only my mom…” or “If only my dad…” It was not until I was hit upside the head by a 2x4 that I realized how much I used the past as a pair of cement boots to hold me back.
That 2x4 looked something like this, “Pam, are you an adult?” “Yes”, was my answer. “Then when are YOU going to start taking responsibility for you and your own actions?”
I was reminded of that 2x4 just this past week when faced with some issues from the past. Rather then put on those cements boots, I took the opportunity to learn. I realized that my past has taught me some very valuable lessons… Lessons that I am grateful for and use as forward moving running shoes rather than a pair of cement boots.
Rather than look for all that was wrong, why not look for the positives?
Rather than complain about what was lacking, why not look at all the things to be grateful for?
Rather than focus on shortcomings of others, why not look for strengths?
Isn’t it time to walk or run unencumbered?
Thursday, April 05, 2007
…and nope, I am not going to say “alike”, because in this instance I am hoping to gather people together who are creative thinkers, who do not necessarily think alike, but have a willingness to share. If this sounds intriguing please read on, but first a few questions...
Do you have intentions that are just dying to become a reality? Wouldn’t it be great if you had access to a supportive group of creative individuals...a group with whom you could share your intention(s) and gain positive feedback and resources from… a group who would hold you accountable for making your intentions reality? If so, please continue reading on…
I am looking for 6-8 creative, motivated, support offering/seeking, open-minded, action-ready individuals to participate in a monthly mastermind, creative think tank, virtual water cooler, or "fill in the blank" group call.
The Benefit: Group members will be provided with an open, safe, and creative space to pick brains, ask for and render support, have access to contacts and resources, plus be held accountable for intentions set.
The How: Each month (time and day to be decided by the group) we will get together on the phone to share our intentions, our wins, our needs, and our feedback. Together as a group we will make things happen.
Think about it, some of the greatest and most successful minds understood the importance of having team support for turning dreams and intentions into the real deal. (Henry Ford, Napolean Hill, Andrew Carnegie, and Jack Canfield…to name a few.)
Whatcha say? You have more to gain than you do to lose so if you are interested in participating please send me an e-mail (with "I'm Interested" in the subject line) and we will get this intention-reality making machine rolling.
Sunday, April 01, 2007
It is so easy to get caught in the hustle and bustle of the day-to-day grind. In doing so we often forget to take time for ourselves, to recharge our battery until it is too late and we hit a wall.
What’s ironic, when we are pushing ourselves over the limit we often think we are getting more done. In reality, not only are we not performing at our best, but most times we are not working as effectively and efficiently. (How can we when we are running on an empty battery?)
So here’s the Go Big, Go Home question…
What are you willing to do, starting today, to recharge your battery?
Remember, self care is critical to not only your well-being, but your success.
Sunday, March 25, 2007
That Eleanor Roosevelt was one smart cookie, I tell ya. While there are loads of amazing quotes from her, that one is one of the best.
Now I will raise my hand and freely admit that I still have to practice being present. There are times when a slip into the past, revisit past situations and relive old feelings. (OUCH!) While that is not always a bad thing, (especially if the past situations revisited are positive), I know that dancing in the moment is pretty important.
The present equates to...
Many amazing possibilities. When we are in the here and now we become more aware of all the good things that surround us. We can see potential opportunities. The "how" to our intentions becomes clearer.
Fear removed. Fear does not reside in the present, just in the future and the past. Think about it.
The present is perfect. Hint: take a look around. I bet there are five things in the here and now that you can be grateful for.
Focus. When we are present our focus on the tasks at hand is clearer. We see the detail and have a better understanding of how to move forward.
If those few reasons did not convince you of the importance of being present, how about trying this one on for size?
Life DOES NOT pass you by. When you are present you get to take advantage of every moment in life. Nothing passes by you...not the silly, not the important, not the lessons to be learned, nor the fun to be had.
So here is the challenge if you choose to accept it. When you find yourself drifting out of the present moment, take some deep breathes, take a good look around, and try to focus on YOU in the here and now.
Until next time, enjoy the gift of today…
P.S. You are cordially invited to check out the latest addition to Make the Most of U.
Sunday, March 18, 2007
I believe it may have been Nelson Mandela who asked that powerful question. Regardless of who asked it, who are we not to be great?
We all deserve to step into our greatness. When we do we are able to celebrate our positives and acknowledge our negatives... only to learn from them. By not stepping into our greatness we give way to settling for less than we deserve. We allow our self-doubters to take over.
Keeping with the theme…
Who are we not to have a voice and share our truths without fear of judgment?
Everyone deserves to have a voice and share what is in their heart; by doing so we become active contributors, educators, and empowered people.
In not sharing we miss out on opportunities for growth and learning. We risk our integrity and make ourselves wrong for having a differing opinion or thought.
Who are we not to believe?
When we believe in ourselves and our abilities we are apt to take action and be active participants in our own lives. When we do not believe, we sit on the sidelines watching life and opportunities pass us by.
So let me ask you, who are YOU not to?
Until next time it is my wish that you be great, speak from your heart, and believe in YOU…
Sunday, March 11, 2007
A dear friend came to me the other day with a concern, one that was spurred by The Secret. Trust me when I say that I am not wishing to beat a dead horse here, but her concern was an important one, one worth addressing.
The concern was two-fold 1) If you have negative/bad thoughts, bad things will happen. and 2) If you don't manifest the things you want, you are not thinking about them in the right way.
It saddens me to think that there could be many people, similar to my friend, who are scared of their own thoughts. Afraid that if they think bad thoughts bad things will happen. Wouldn't that be tantamount to telling the mother who's child was diagnosed with a life-threatening illness that it was because she thought bad thoughts that her child became ill? I shudder at the thought!!
From my own experience (and as someone who has learned some good things from The Secret) just thinking negative thoughts does not create bad things or negative situations. It is the action one may take based on those thoughts which can bring about the negative. In addition..
1) When you focus on the negative, you are not aware of the positive potentials that surround you. Why? Because the negative thoughts and fears overtake positive thoughts and experiences. When we focus on the negative, we see the negative around us.
2) Positive feelings and negative feelings help us to decipher what we want and what we don't want..what's in alignment with who we are. Once we understand the feelings, we often then decide the action we are going to take. (Remember Esther Hick's EGS example in The Secret?)
3) I believe it was James Ray who said something along the lines of...that just because you think about and visualize millions of dollars landing in your lap that does not mean it will. You have to take ACTION.
The operative word is ACTION!
4) Negative feelings/thoughts around something you desire often prevent taking positive action.
So in short, just because you think something, it does not mean that the something will happen. Action must be involved in order to make things happen.
It is my wish that those who have similar concerns to my friend not beat themselves up for their thoughts. Everyone has negative thoughts from time-to-time..it's part of being human. As always, I am open to your thoughts and feelings so please feel free to share.
In the meantime, please be well...
Friday, March 09, 2007
Many thanks to Lyman from Creating A Better Life for including me in this fun successful habits/secrets exercise. (Which, by the way, was started by Aaron of Today is that Day.)
I am a firm believer that positive habits truly do support us in being the best we can be. With that in mind,(and in the spirit of this exercise) here are just a few of my successful habits/secrets....
1- I practice an attitude of gratitude EVERY DAY, once in the morning and once in the evening. You know what? Starting my day and ending my day writing down or saying at least five things that I am most grateful for helps me to stay positive and full of energy. This in turn allows me to become more aware of great potential opportunities.
2- I exercise 4-5 days a week. Exercising not only helps me to get in shape and stay in shape, but it helps me to focus. Focus on my work, focus on my loved ones, focus on the good stuff.
3- I drink plenty of water. Eight glasses a day. Staying hydrated helps me to think better, not to mention it is great for the skin. :)
4- I get at least eight hours of sleep. Without proper sleep, not only can I become a grouch, but I run out of energy far too early in the day. That is not a good thing!
5- I learn. I am what I would consider a student of life. I try and learn something from every situation...the good, the bad, and the ugly. By looking for the lesson I have been able to create quite an extensive "learning" tool box full of great tools to use over and over.
OK, so Jon, Matthew, Jodee, Steve, and Desiree what are your successful habits/secrets that you practice at least 4-5 days a week?
Sunday, March 04, 2007
I pledged to make a difference. Will you?
Saturday, March 03, 2007
I recently finished an awesome Advanced Coaching Program course at Coach U called Financial Independence (FI). This course helped me to fully understand what true FI is. It also created more awareness around various obstacles that stand in the way for many in creating FI.
The biggest obstacle…limiting beliefs.
I have met many people in my travels that grew up with messages around money. Some messages are supportive and wonderful and others are depleting and disempowering. It is the depleting and disempowering ones that grow into long lasting limiting beliefs, either on a conscious or sub-conscious level.
If you have ever felt that financial independence was pie in the sky or was something that happened for others but could never happen for you, I want you to consider the following question…
If money had a voice and could talk what would it say to you?
(Many thanks to Diane, our great facilitator who asked this powerful question of the class. You made us all think long and hard about our own limiting beliefs.)
I encourage you to explore any beliefs connected to what came up for you. For example, if money said..."I am not evil", what message or limiting belief have you been holding around money being evil? How can you shift that message into something limitless as opposed to limiting?
Have fun with this one!