Monday, April 21, 2008
While most may have one Achilles Heel, I seem to have two.
Does having two make me any more special than anyone else? Certainly not! Does it make me more deserving of praise and accolades? “Oh, check Pam out, she has not one, but two Achilles Heels. Isn't she cool?” Nope! Don't think so.
So what does it make me? Human! It makes me human.
And while I have two, there is one in particular that bothers me most; it's dried, cracked, sometimes hurts, itches like hell, and thus far has evaded “remedy”.
My major Achilles Heel is the fear of losing the things that are most important to me.
So when I am feeling the fear of loss in the form of negative thoughts, I try and replace those thoughts with more positive ones. While that often provides temporary relief, temporary is no longer good enough! A long-term cure is what I'm after.
In searching for that cure I asked the following question (err..questions) “Why do I fear loss and what can I do to remove it?”
The remedy/answer did not come right away. As a matter of fact, it waited a day and came during a coaching session with a client. The answer was, “We have a tendency to hang on for dear life to things that are most important. In hanging on in a white-knuckled fashion, we cloud the good aspects of those things and minimize our ability to enjoy them. Have faith; faith in yourself and faith that all that is important will remain as long as you believe in those things. Be grateful for them, be present, and trust.”
Now it's your turn, dear readers and fellow bloggers, what's your Achilles Heel(s)? What are you willing to do to ease the cracking and itch?
Sunday, April 13, 2008
"I don't live in a soap opera so I don't choose to be a part of one."
I am not going to spoil this wonderful quote from my 13 year old son with a huge explanation. I will just say, wise words to ponder, dontcha think?
Sunday, April 06, 2008
I just realized that I have not asked a “Go Big or Go Home Question” in some time so here is a doozy for you; one that I am actually exploring myself. Beware, it's a two parter.
Who or what do I need to be to create a peaceful and grounded life? What am I willing to do to achieve peace and become more grounded and peaceful?
(Oh, and since I never ask a question, that I am not willing to answer myself, feel free to hop on over to Walking My Own Walk.)
Sunday, March 30, 2008
The hardest thing often to relinquish is being in the driver’s seat (in control). Let’s face it, it’s difficult not to have control, especially over events or even people (yep, people) who are important to us. Why? Because we have to be reliant on something or someone else to help create the desired outcome we are after…to help get us to where we want to go.
Two weeks ago I shared with all of you how I became vulnerable by putting my deep personal feelings out there. This was a wonderful and tough thing to do; it was wonderful to let the other person know just how much I love and care for him, but at the same time it was difficult to get out of the driver’s seat and into the passenger seat. (To this day, I still have to practice letting go of the outcome.)
You see, the only things I had control over in this situation were my own feelings and how I chose to share them. I did not have control over how my feelings would be received and the response I would ultimately get. Now, it is a matter of being the best person I can be to myself and this person, letting go of the outcome, and having faith (all things I have control over) that what is meant to be, will.
I’ll admit, it’s tough to let go of the wheel and at the same time it is so easy to fall prey to trying to force or push things along. Yep, been there, done that; trying to force the outcome produced results far from what I really wanted. In the long run it wasn’t worth it.
So what’s a person to do?
First things first, it helps to distinguish what you truly have control over in the current situation. If it helps, ask yourself the following questions, “What do I have control over?” and “What don’t I have control over?” Getting clear and creating awareness around when you are in the driver’s seat and when you are in the passenger’s seat is half the battle.
Of the things you have control over make a commitment to execute them in a constructive fashion; meaning knowing when to put on the gas and knowing when to ease off a bit and just coast. Remember, it’s a fine balance; gunning the gas pedal is not always the best option. Sometimes you have to drive as if you are “Driving Miss Daisy”, slowly, steadily, and reliably.
Now it’s your turn. When was the last time you forced your way into the driver’s seat? What happened? What happened the last time you sat back, were completely present, and enjoyed the ride?
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Sunday, March 16, 2008
In my very humble opinion vulnerability gets a bad rap. By its own definition it is in and of itself vulnerable to negative connotations. It’s often equated to being REALLY exposed and susceptible to major hurt. While that is true, there is a positive flip-side to being vulnerable.
I think I am hearing a collective, “What? What could possibly be the positive flip-side to being vulnerable?”
OK guys, this is just my opinion and based on my own personal experience; being vulnerable is being human. It is sharing my truest feelings, the ones that come from heart. It is sharing ME fully, the good and not so good. It is an opportunity for growth, deeper relationships, and realness. It is NOT in any way a means to becoming a doormat. No way! I get to choose when, where, and the people I am vulnerable with. Let me give you an example…
Just recently I shared some very deep, personal feelings with a VERY special person. I was real, I was open, and I was vulnerable as hell. (Not to mention scared to bits.) Yes, I was exposed and susceptible to hurt, but that was the chance I CHOSE to take. Why? Because I knew that if I was not willing to be a bit vulnerable and willing to put myself out there I would NEVER know the potential possibilities available. All I would know was the feelings I had deep inside and the “what ifs” attached to not sharing.
Basically, I felt I had more to gain than I did to lose by being vulnerable. Whatever the outcome I was being true to me, being true to my feelings, and my own integrity and that is NEVER a bad thing. Oh, and guess what? The outcome was not negative. Quite to the contrary, it was wonderful!! I gained in so many ways, more than I could have EVER imagined.
So here’s to coming out from behind the safety of the shadows and letting the truest, realest person shine through. Next time you are afraid to be a bit vulnerable, please ask yourself the following, “Do I have more to gain or more to lose by being me and sharing who I really am with the world?”
Peace, Love, and Light to all of you!!
P.S. In the spirit of being vulnerable I am asking for your help. It is my goal in the next two weeks to gain 100 subscribers to the Weekly Messages of YOUR Heart so together we can tune into our own hearts and really make a huge difference. If you or someone you know wants to dig a bit deeper, have a bit more fun each week, and learn something really cool about you, please consider subscribing. It is of no cost to you other than some time. Please help me to make my goal, and in turn help make this world a more loving and fun place for all. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!!
Sunday, March 09, 2008
I will never, not in one million years, profess that I have all the answers. I don’t and I am sure I would be safe in saying that most of us probably feel that way. I do know one thing; my heart has the answers that are right for me. I have found, especially over the last few years, that if I follow my heart I never go wrong. My heart holds all the cool stuff, all the great information just as long as I am willing to be present, listen, and take action.
So wouldn’t it be cool to get little reminders from your heart each week; little reminders that not only motivate and inspire, but support you in taking action? If you answered “yes”, please consider subscribing to Weekly Messages from Your Heart. (It will cost you absolutely nothing except a few minutes of your time each week to read and ponder the message.)
Your heart truly does know best. If you don't believe me, ask it a question and give a listen.
Saturday, March 01, 2008
As many of you know, I am all about removing tolerations; those things that begin to way you down, take up space, become mind clutter. Tolerations are a pain in the posterior, plain and simple…particularly computer related tolerations.
Since I have already written about how to remove tolerations I promise this post is not going to be a rehash. However, I would like to offer all of you a fantastic potential solution for your technical woes. Dear friend and fellow blogger, Phil Gerbyshak shares a great way for YOU to gain free technical support for the next few weeks. Check out what’s on offer – the time to remove your technical tolerations is certainly now!!
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Behind every dark happening, behind every difficulty, there is a hidden blessing. - White Eagle (courtesy of Your Spiritual Home).
Every situation and experience, good or bad has some positive take-away if we choose to look for it. Yep, I kid you not, it’s true. We have in front of us the opportunity to grow and learn even in the face of adversity. So my challenge to you is this; the next time you are faced with a negative situation ask yourself, “What’s one good thing I can take away from this experience?” The answer may be rather surprising.
Sunday, February 03, 2008
Just yesterday I received this awesome question in a newsletter that I subscribe to;
“What if we shifted our focus from achieving more to simply living more deeply?” - IONS
What does it mean to you to live more deeply? What would a life lived deeply look like?
I look forward to your thoughts. (To read my response to this question, please click here.)
Sunday, January 27, 2008
I guess I can quit with my really bad sports analogy now and just ask you to consider this; when was the last time you took a chance? When was the last time you threw caution to the wind and just went for it?
If your answer is, “I have no clue.” OR “Gosh, I don’t remember.” Don’t you think it is time you stepped outside your box before the cardboard starts to rot? (Many thanks to my friend, Phil for that wonderful analogy.) I DO! You owe it to yourself!
Before you walk away thinking, “OK, this chick is off her rocker, she doesn’t know me, she has no clue what I am up against.” You’re right, I don’t really know you and I don’t know what you are up against, but I do know that anything is possible and I mean ANYTHING if you are willing to take a chance.
So with that, I wish to offer you a few things to ponder…
1) You have much more to gain than you do to lose. Think about it, if you go after what you want and get it, you gained. If you go after what you want and don’t get it, you haven’t lost anything – you are right where you were when you started. Right?
2) Every experience, good or bad is an opportunity for growth and learning.
3) When you allow fear to stand in your way, you are just handing your power over to the fear. You and I both know it is no fun being powerless.
4) Create some awareness around what holds you back. In creating that awareness you have the capability to remove the obstacle or jump over it.
5) If you follow your heart, you can’t go wrong.
6) If you follow your heart, and someone thinks you are silly for it, that says more about them then it does about you. Oh, and remember it really is none of your business what others think of you. It is your business what you think of you.
7) Did I mention that you have more to gain than you do to lose? :::smile:::
8) Get out of the past. You have lived it once already, it’s time to focus on the present.
So what’s it gonna be; are you going to sit or are you gonna play?
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Sunday, January 13, 2008
Wanting abundance without an exchange of services, or love without loving, is a little bit like wanting an aquarium without fish, a leash without a dog, a frame without a picture... (Courtesy of Tut.com)
No truer words could be said or shared. I could say so much more, but what’s more important to me is what this quote says to you? Please don’t be shy.
(image from www.homewardbounddogrescue.com)