Sunday, June 29, 2008

Living a Passion Filled Life

Passion Filled Life = A life filled with contentment and fun more than 80% of the time. Doing, being, and having the things that matter most to you and that are truly in alignment with who you are at your deepest level, your heart.

Everyone has their own definition or vision of what a passion-filled life looks/feels like. For me, living a life full of passion means getting out of bed each (ok, at least five days out of seven) day with an excitement for what the day holds. It means loving what I do, rather than dreading it. It means being surrounded by positives, by love, and wonderful people and opportunities. It means knowing who I am and doing things that are truly “synced” with me.

So how passion filled is your life? Wanna find out? I dare ya to take this and see.

The first step to creating the most passion filled life starts with knowing where you are. Give it a shot; you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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Sunday, June 22, 2008

Don't Forget

Forgiving is not about forgetting the old story. It's about giving a chance to write a new story - Quote from the book , by

Most recently I came to the tough realization that I was still holding on to some past hurt from my childhood. Heck, I am 41 years old, but there was a part of me that was still hurting over things said to me when I was a young child and a teenager. Reliving those past memories not only hurt, but I began to feel powerless all over again, which resulted in anger.

Here is some food for thought; holding on to anger or resentment from past hurts only holds us back and prevents us from fully moving forward. Think about it, how can we truly move forward if part of us is still sitting smack dab in the middle of a past hurt?

In order to fully move forward, to be a part of my own here and now, I decided to “write a new story”. I have not forgotten the things that hurt, but instead I asked myself the following question, “What did I learn and what positives did I take away from this situation?”

Focusing on what I learned and the positives not only helped me to shift my energy from negative to positive, but I regained my personal power. I am no longer that little girl or that teenager who felt small and insignificant. I can now embrace the me that I am right now; a woman who is not a quitter and who is willing to fight for what's most important to her.

So let me ask you this, how will you write your story? What's one thing you wish to “unhook” from emotionally, one thing from your past that causes you pain? I wish to encourage to think of ways to write a new story so that pain is no longer drawing you back. Think of the things (at least one thing) you gained from the experience. It could be that you learned how you don't wish to be or how you don't ever wish to treat another person. It could be that you gained strength from the experience. Believe it or not, out of all bad/painful experiences there is some good to be had. Here's to not forgetting, but forgiving and letting go.

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Monday, May 12, 2008

Independence from the Chaos, Stress, and Madness

In the United States July is the month to celebrate independence. While folks may be celebrating a country's independence, I would like to mark July as the start to breaking free from the following:

Stress
Insecurities
The feeling of being stuck
Lack of passion and purpose
Tolerations
Fears
...to name just a few things that hold us back and keep us from reaching our fullest potential; living a life that we desire and deserve.

It is my wish that each one of you experiences the freedom to be who you truly are so you can have what you really want. It is my desire and goal to support you in doing just that, being the real you and doing and having things that are in integrity with who you truly are.

Please join me starting July 10, 2008 for a four month intensive based upon the e-workbooks Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward. I am opening up this group coaching program to ONLY 10 people so if you are interested in:

1) Knowing what makes you tick
2) Attracting what you really want in your life
3) Letting go of any fears that are keeping you from living your life to the fullest
4) Eradicating any tolerations that are weighing you down
5) Finding your passion and purpose; claiming it once and for all
6) Gaining the power to be who you want to be, do what you want to do and have what you want to have
7) Learning how to create sticky intentions


Please contact me to set up a brief interview. Participants will receive the following:

- Two, one hour group coaching sessions per month via phone
- One, 45 minute individual coaching session per month via phone
- A monthly buddy call with another participant in the program
- The e-workbook series Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward
- Access to a private online area where you can interact with other group participants in between calls

Some benefits for participating...

*Group support and encouragement
*Connection with liked-minded people.
*Safe, confidential space to share and grow
*When you strengthen your inner self, stress and tolerations are dramatically reduced
*Changes from the inside out
*More peace and balance
*Awareness and clarity around who you are and what you want
*Accountability

The program schedule is as follows:

July 10th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
July 17th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of July 21st: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of July 28th: Buddy calls

August 7th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
August 14th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of August 18th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of August 25th: Buddy calls

September 4th: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
September 11th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of September 15th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of September 22nd: Buddy calls

October 2nd: First Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
October 9th: Second Group Coaching Call @ 9pm ET, 8pm CT, 7pm MT, 6pm PT
Week of October 13th: Individual Coaching Call (scheduled individually)
Week of October 20th: Buddy calls

The regular cost for this program is $660 USD ($165 per month), however, I wish to offer this entire program to 10 people for $165 USD ( which is the equivalent of three free months of group and individual coaching.) In addition, if you sign up by June 20th, you will receive 20% off the $165.

Space is limited so contact me to set up your introductory interview call. Here is to creating individual independence by getting to the core of who you truly are!

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Monday, April 21, 2008

Cracked Heels and Itchy Weaknesses

While most may have one , I seem to have two.

Does having two make me any more special than anyone else? Certainly not! Does it make me more deserving of praise and accolades? “Oh, check Pam out, she has not one, but two Achilles Heels. Isn't she cool?” Nope! Don't think so.

So what does it make me? Human! It makes me human.

And while I have two, there is one in particular that bothers me most; it's dried, cracked, sometimes hurts, itches like hell, and thus far has evaded “remedy”.

My major Achilles Heel is the fear of losing the things that are most important to me.

So when I am feeling the fear of loss in the form of negative thoughts, I try and replace those thoughts with more positive ones. While that often provides temporary relief, temporary is no longer good enough! A long-term cure is what I'm after.

In searching for that cure I asked the following question (err..questions) “Why do I fear loss and what can I do to remove it?”

The remedy/answer did not come right away. As a matter of fact, it waited a day and came during a coaching session with a client. The answer was, “We have a tendency to hang on for dear life to things that are most important. In hanging on in a white-knuckled fashion, we cloud the good aspects of those things and minimize our ability to enjoy them. Have faith; faith in yourself and faith that all that is important will remain as long as you believe in those things. Be grateful for them, be present, and trust.”

Now it's your turn, dear readers and fellow bloggers, what's your Achilles Heel(s)? What are you willing to do to ease the cracking and itch?

 

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Sunday, April 13, 2008

Drama! Who Needs It?

"I don't live in a soap opera so I don't choose to be a part of one."

I am not going to spoil this wonderful quote from my 13 year old son with a huge explanation. I will just say, wise words to ponder, dontcha think?

 

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Sunday, March 30, 2008

Driver or Passenger Seat?

The hardest thing often to relinquish is being in the driver’s seat (in control). Let’s face it, it’s difficult not to have control, especially over events or even people (yep, people) who are important to us. Why? Because we have to be reliant on something or someone else to help create the desired outcome we are after…to help get us to where we want to go.(courtesy of www.pedalcar.com)

Two weeks ago I with all of you how I became vulnerable by putting my deep personal feelings out there. This was a wonderful and tough thing to do; it was wonderful to let the other person know just how much I love and care for him, but at the same time it was difficult to get out of the driver’s seat and into the passenger seat. (To this day, I still have to practice letting go of the outcome.)

You see, the only things I had control over in this situation were my own feelings and how I chose to share them. I did not have control over how my feelings would be received and the response I would ultimately get. Now, it is a matter of being the best person I can be to myself and this person, letting go of the outcome, and having faith (all things I have control over) that what is meant to be, will.

I’ll admit, it’s tough to let go of the wheel and at the same time it is so easy to fall prey to trying to force or push things along. Yep, been there, done that; trying to force the outcome produced results far from what I really wanted. In the long run it wasn’t worth it.

So what’s a person to do?

First things first, it helps to distinguish what you truly have control over in the current situation. If it helps, ask yourself the following questions, “What do I have control over?” and “What don’t I have control over?” Getting clear and creating awareness around when you are in the driver’s seat and when you are in the passenger’s seat is half the battle.

Of the things you have control over make a commitment to execute them in a constructive fashion; meaning knowing when to put on the gas and knowing when to ease off a bit and just coast. Remember, it’s a fine balance; gunning the gas pedal is not always the best option. Sometimes you have to drive as if you are , slowly, steadily, and reliably.

Now it’s your turn. When was the last time you forced your way into the driver’s seat? What happened? What happened the last time you sat back, were completely present, and enjoyed the ride?

(Image courtesy of www.pedalcar.com)

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Sunday, March 16, 2008

I Feel So Vulnerable

In my very humble opinion vulnerability gets a bad rap. By its own it is in and of itself vulnerable to negative connotations. It’s often equated to being REALLY exposed and susceptible to major hurt. While that is true, there is a positive flip-side to being vulnerable.

I think I am hearing a collective, “What? What could possibly be the positive flip-side to being vulnerable?”

OK guys, this is just my opinion and based on my own personal experience; being vulnerable is being human. It is sharing my truest feelings, the ones that come from heart. It is sharing ME fully, the good and not so good. It is an opportunity for growth, deeper relationships, and realness. It is NOT in any way a means to becoming a doormat. No way! I get to choose when, where, and the people I am vulnerable with. Let me give you an example…

Just recently I shared some very deep, personal feelings with a VERY special person. I was real, I was open, and I was vulnerable as hell. (Not to mention scared to bits.) Yes, I was exposed and susceptible to hurt, but that was the chance I CHOSE to take. Why? Because I knew that if I was not willing to be a bit vulnerable and willing to put myself out there I would NEVER know the potential possibilities available. All I would know was the feelings I had deep inside and the “what ifs” attached to not sharing.

Basically, I felt I had more to gain than I did to lose by being vulnerable. Whatever the outcome I was being true to me, being true to my feelings, and my own integrity and that is NEVER a bad thing. Oh, and guess what? The outcome was not negative. Quite to the contrary, it was wonderful!! I gained in so many ways, more than I could have EVER imagined.

So here’s to coming out from behind the safety of the shadows and letting the truest, realest person shine through. Next time you are afraid to be a bit vulnerable, please ask yourself the following, “Do I have more by being me and sharing who I really am with the world?”

Peace, Love, and Light to all of you!!

P.S. In the spirit of being vulnerable I am asking for your help. It is my goal in the next two weeks to gain 100 subscribers to the so together we can tune into our own hearts and really make a huge difference. If you or someone you know wants to dig a bit deeper, have a bit more fun each week, and learn something really cool about you, please consider . It is of no cost to you other than some time. Please help me to make my goal, and in turn help make this world a more loving and fun place for all. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!!

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Sunday, March 09, 2008

The Heart Knows Best

I will never, not in one million years, profess that I have all the answers. I don’t and I am sure I would be safe in saying that most of us probably feel that way. I do know one thing; my heart has the answers that are right for me. I have found, especially over the last few years, that if I follow my heart I never go wrong. My heart holds all the cool stuff, all the great information just as long as I am willing to be present, listen, and take action.

So wouldn’t it be cool to get little reminders from your heart each week; little reminders that not only motivate and inspire, but support you in taking action? If you answered “yes”, please consider subscribing to Weekly Messages from Your Heart. (It will cost you absolutely nothing except a few minutes of your time each week to read and ponder the message.)

Your heart truly does know best. If you don't believe me, ask it a question and give a listen.

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Sunday, January 27, 2008

Play or Sit?

If there is one thing I have learned in all my 41 years on this planet; life is a wonderful game to be played and not watched from the sidelines. You’ve got to take chances and get in the game or you’ll never know what it feels like to score a goal, sink a three-pointer, or make a touchdown.

I guess I can quit with my really bad sports analogy now and just ask you to consider this; when was the last time you took a chance? When was the last time you threw caution to the wind and just went for it?

If your answer is, “I have no clue.” OR “Gosh, I don’t remember.” Don’t you think it is time you stepped outside your box before the cardboard starts to rot? (Many thanks to my friend, for that wonderful analogy.) I DO! You owe it to yourself!

Before you walk away thinking, “OK, this chick is off her rocker, she doesn’t know me, she has no clue what I am up against.” You’re right, I don’t really know you and I don’t know what you are up against, but I do know that anything is possible and I mean ANYTHING if you are willing to take a chance.

So with that, I wish to offer you a few things to ponder…

1) You have much more to gain than you do to lose. Think about it, if you go after what you want and get it, you gained. If you go after what you want and don’t get it, you haven’t lost anything – you are right where you were when you started. Right?
2) Every experience, good or bad is an opportunity for growth and learning.
3) When you allow fear to stand in your way, you are just handing your power over to the fear. You and I both know it is no fun being powerless.
4) Create some awareness around what holds you back. In creating that awareness you have the capability to remove the obstacle or jump over it.
5) If you follow your heart, you can’t go wrong.
6) If you follow your heart, and someone thinks you are silly for it, that says more about them then it does about you. Oh, and remember it really is . It is your business what you think of you.
7) Did I mention that you have more to gain than you do to lose? :::smile:::
8) Get out of the past. You have lived it once already, it’s time to focus on the present.

So what’s it gonna be; are you going to sit or are you gonna play?

Sharing more link love to get those motivational juices flowing…

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Sunday, January 13, 2008

Don't Be Dogless

Wanting abundance without an exchange of services, or love without loving, is a little bit like wanting an aquarium without fish, a leash without a dog, a frame without a picture... (Courtesy of )

No truer words could be said or shared. I could say so much more, but what’s more important to me is what this quote says to you? Please don’t be shy.

Sharing some link love. Please check out the following sites for some awesome insight:




(image from www.homewardbounddogrescue.com)

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Tuesday, January 01, 2008

So You Think You Got It Bad?!

I have to admit I really struggled with what to write about. I know that may sound silly considering that this is the first day of the New Year and there is a plethora of intention, resolution, and “making this year your best year ever” topics to choose from. Somehow writing about how to make 2008 the best year felt a tad “been there, done that”. (Please know I mean no offense to anyone who has written about making this the best year ever. Kudos to you and thank you!)

So to help with my massively self-imposed writers block, I shared my topical conundrum with my sister. Being the smart, creative cookie that she is she suggested that I write about . YES! What a brilliant idea!(Thanks, Wen) Anyone who knows me, knows that I am BIG into so I can’t think of a better way to start 2008 then to share a bit about this amazing movement.

In an effort to promote prosperity and create an attitude of gratitude, Rev Will Bowen challenged his congregation to go complaint-free for 21 days. (Yep, attitude does make a HUGE difference!) To support them in the challenge he gave each one of his members a purple bracelet to be used as a reminder of their commitment to think positively. Here's the kicker; if at any time the wearer of the bracelet caught themselves complaining aloud they had to move the bracelet from one wrist to the other.

What an amazing way to create awareness and to help change a mindset!!

So here is my challenge to you for the start of this New Year; eradicate complaints from your conversation with others for the next 21 days. See what happens – I will be willing to bet you dollars to donuts that you will begin to notice a positive change.

Here is to an amazing, complaint-free, positive thinking 2008.

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Sunday, December 23, 2007

What’s Your Song?

It’s hard to believe that another year has come and gone. Did you accomplish all you wished to in 2007? What moments stand out as your best moments ever? Did you learn anything cool from the past year?

This past year was my “” year. This was the year when I was really going to push the envelop, take the risks, and follow through on my intentions. So did I?

Yes, in many ways I went big this year, there is no doubt, HOWEVER, I don’t think I went as big as I could have. There were times when I allowed my to stand in my way. I’ll even admit that there were times when I was a bit lackadaisical, and rather than take action on my intentions, I coasted.

That’s OK! It was a great year nonetheless and I am looking forward to 2008 being an even better year. That is my commitment and rather than choose a theme for the year or come up with a list of resolutions, I am choosing a song.

This year my song is going to be “Fly Like An Eagle” by the Steve Miller Band.

This is going to be my year to soar beyond my own boundaries and limitations. That means when I am up against a challenge and I am feeling fearful, I am going to remind myself that I have more to gain than I do to lose. This is going to the year when more solutions are created by reminding myself to keep it real and keep it in the present moment. Most importantly, this is the year when more value will be given to others and to myself.

So what’s your song for 2008? Will it be a song with some uber-cool lyrics that motivate? Or maybe it’s a song with a kick-ass guitar riff so that whenever you hear it you feel completely empowered.

Whatever your song is, I hope you will join me in making 2008 one of the best years ever. Make this YOUR year to live your passion, to enjoy, and to have a heck of a good time in doing so.

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Sunday, December 16, 2007

How to Throw the Best Damn Pity Party Ever

You’re feeling like crap, truly down in the dumps. No happy music, no positive affirmations, no silly sitcom can shake the crap blues away. So what’s left to do?

THROW YOURSELF THE BEST DAMN PITY PARTY EVER!! Yep, you read right. Uh-huh, get ready to throw that party.

Things you will need:

  • Sad music, the real tear jerking kind.
  • Your favorite comfort food; this is NOT the time to count the calories. OK!?
  • Black streamers and balloons; no party is complete without good decorations to set the mood
  • A box of Kleenex; it’s cool to blubber, but not cool to wipe snot on your sleeve.
  • A pad of paper and pen; for writing down all funky feelings, negative thoughts, letters to people who have wronged you.
  • Party etiquette (THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT); 1) There is NO giving up on you no matter how crappy you feel, 2) Feel your crap, sit in it, but no slinging directly it at others (That means no name calling, no pot shots, etc.) and 3) When the party is over, it is over.

No, I truly have not lost my mind by suggesting that you throw a pity party. Folks, I’ll let you in on a little secret, for a majority of my life I have been the Queen of Stuff. Over the last several months I have worked on slowly (but surly) shedding the title, the tiara, and the little silk sash that came with that title. However, in order to do so, I have had to release and let go of the negative feelings, the hurt, and the blame (ALL OF IT!) in order to make room for the good stuff.

So once you have felt the feelings, cried a good cry, written your scathing letters and burned (or shredded) them, and gotten it all out; get up, dust yourself off, and be ready to bring in the good stuff. Regardless of how it might feel at the time, the good stuff is really right around the corner just waiting to be invited in.

So whatcha think? The next time you can’t shake the blues, will you give yourself a good pity party?

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Special Thanks! I want say a special thank you to my friend for his wonderful and generous feedback and thoughts on how to improve my blogs. THANK YOU, Phil – you are a star.  

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Sunday, November 11, 2007

Steering Clear of the Ba Humbugs

The holidays are meant to be a time of joy, sharing, love, family togetherness, and peace, but for some they are the exact opposite. For some, the holidays are a time of stress, upset, financial drain, and dread.

I am here to tell you that this holiday season does not have to be a breeding ground for turmoil. You too can chase away those holiday ba humbugs with a few of the following ideas:

1) Starting today envision your ideal holiday. Hold on to that vision; protect that vision as if it were a rare gem. Then make a commitment to making that vision a reality.

2) With your vision created, begin setting some strong . For example, “I will not allow others’ bad moods or differences to ruin my day.” Like your vision, commit to upholiding your boundaries.

3) Remember it is your holiday too so you deserve to enjoy it. If you need to delegate responsibilities this year, for example, asking Aunt Bertha to make the turkey and Cousin Rhonda to make the salad, that’s OK. Give yourself the permission you need to ask for help and to delegate.

4) Take time for you. Set up some time to recharge. Take naps, go for walks, take 15 minutes to sit quietly; whatever it takes to restore your energy and ensure that you don’t get run down. If you need to schedule “your time” in your calendar like you would a holiday party, do so. Being tired and grouchy leaves you vulnerable to the ba humbugs.

5) Create a budget and stick with that budget. Remember, it’s not the size or the cost of the gift that counts, it’s the thought.

6) Don’t get trapped in others’ holiday dramas and garbage. Remember, you have the power to choose what you wish to be involved in and what you don’t.

What strategies have you used in the past to avoid the holiday ba humbugs? Feel free to share your strategies and ideas. Together we can compile a great list of ways to chase away the ba humbugs and make this the best holiday season ever.

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Saturday, October 27, 2007

The Power of Choice

Free will.
Alternatives.
Opportunity.
Options.
Judgment.
Distinctions.

It does not matter the label we give it, the bottom line is we ALL have choices. We make distinctions between one thing or another. We engage our free will in situations when we feel the need. We seek out alternatives or look for opportunities. We weigh our options. We even act on judgment. Why?

Because we have the power of choice.

We can choose to be bold.
We can choose to take chances.
We can choose to shy away from certain opportunities.
We can choose to see the positives in any situation.
We can choose to be angry or hurt.
We can choose to make a difference.
We can choose to be a martyr or feel sorry for ourselves.
We can even choose to grow and become empowered.
We can choose…

So here is the challenge; when faced with any situation (sticky, tough, wonderful, scary, amazing) ask yourself, “What do I choose?” and see what comes up. The more you exercise your power of choice, the stronger it will get. The power to choose is yours!

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Saturday, September 22, 2007

Funk or No Funk

Let’s face it, we all have bad days. We all have days when “the funk” is staring us straight in the eye. I don’t know about you, but when I am feeling “the funk”, my energy drops, my mood gets cloudy, and I lack motivation and clarity. To be honest, I have had a few of those “funk” days recently; days where it felt all too tempting to crawl back into bed and pull the covers over my head.

Sound familiar?

My most recent “funk, funk, funky days” got me thinking, if we all have choices (which we do), how can we choose to chase the funk away? Here are a few things I came up with:

1) Be in an attitude of gratitude. Start listing things you are most grateful for. And if that does not chase the funk away, how about
2) Be generous. Give of yourself in an authentic fashion. OR
3) Play some “funky” (not depressing) music and dance your booty off or sing your lungs out. If that does not grab ya, try
4) Exercising. Get that blood and endorphins flowing. And if you are still feeling “the funk”
5) Phone a friend and share. Get that funk out of your system.

Enquiring minds wanna know, how do you get rid of “the funk?” What’s something you have tried or would be willing to try to lift your mood and spirits?

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Saturday, September 15, 2007

Kicking the Past in the Behind

I raise my hand and admit, I Pam Thomas was a blamer and past dweller. Yep, that’s right; I used to blame everything that went wrong in my life on things that happened in my past. If I was having a crappy day it had to be because Auntie So-and-So looked at me sideways when I was five. If I wanted to do something, but was scared to try, it surely had to be because my best friend called me “fat” when I was 13.

Then it happened.

I was sat on the floor of my apartment with my fiancé (now ex-husband) bitching and moaning about something not going right. As I recall it, I was actually placing blame on my parents for something they said or did when I was a teenager. Then all of the sudden my fiancé looked at me and asked, “Pam, are you an adult?” “Yes,” I said. To which he replied, “Then when are you going to start taking responsibility for your own actions?”

Wow! That was just the 2x4 I needed to dislodge my head from my posterior, to knock me sideways, and force me into the land of the present. You mean I have a choice? You mean I don’t have to stay stuck in the past?

Fast forward to today. I am here to tell you that it is quite a relief to release the past. (Besides it really sucks carrying around tons of past wounds, etc…. not to mention rather heavy.) It is empowering to know that I have choices. I can choose to respond to certain situations any way I wish. It’s my choice and no body else’s.

Let me ask you; is there something from your past that is holding you back? Is there something from your past that is causing you great pain?

If the answer is “yes”, then let me ask you this, how is holding on to whatever is holding you back (or hurting you) supporting you in the here and the now?

If you’re ready to let go and put the past behind you here are few things to try:

  • Write a “let it rip” letter to anyone who has hurt you. Get it all out. Then rip the letter to shreds or burn it.
  • Look for any good things that you can take away from a past experience. Anything beneficial that could be used to support you.
  • Talk with someone you trust and brainstorm ways in which you can get clear of the past.
  • Be aware. When you feel yourself tapping into past hurt or blaming past experiences, stop and remember, you have choices.
Here’s to kicking the past in the behind. Here’s to your forward movement and the awesome choices YOU get to make.

 

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Friday, August 31, 2007

From Paper to Reality

As you probably guessed I didn’t go fishing last week; no bait, no lures, and no cute fishing hat. However, I did do something really exciting-- I put the finishing touches on a major intention, taking it from an idea on paper and turning it into something real.

To explain; about eight months ago I had an amazing conversation with my sister about how we;

  • Get stuck in the rut of the day-to-day.
  • Settle in a job that we don’t like all that much just to make ends meet.
  • Forget who we are at our core.
  • Live by others expectations.
  • Lose sight of what we are really passionate about and what our purpose is.

Needless to say, this conversation inspired me to take action. I wanted to do something that would support others in achieving a life filled with passion, purpose, energy, fun, direction, motivation, and abundance of all kinds. I wanted to do my part to end the pain that I heard in my sister’s voice and the voices of others. Pain caused by the notion that success and doing what one loves most is for people like Oprah, The Donald, and Bill Gates, but not for you and me.

With that said, I am excited to share that I have launched a series of e-workbooks called Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward. This series is not another series of self improvement ebooks with cookie cutter solutions. It is a series filled with fun exercises, personal stories, and thought-provoking questions to support even the busiest person in taking action and creating the life they desire. So when you have some time, please pop over to the book site and take a peek. Also, please feel free to download the free e-workbook that is available.

(My heartfelt thanks goes out to my sister for the wonderful inspiration, support, and encouragement. Love you, Kiddo!)

It is true, if you have an intention that you truly believe in, and you are willing to take action, you can take that intention from thought to reality. What intention are you willing to take from paper to reality? What do you need to make it happen?

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Saturday, August 11, 2007

Are You Living A Lie?

WARNING: Semi-rant to follow. Proceed at your own risk.

Just recently I was listening to a recorded version of keynote speech “The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life” . This inspiring speech was not about how to create more money, but rather how to form a better relationship with money and life in general.

The main message was loud and clear; as a society and as individuals we live from a place of scarcity and lack. Why? Because we have been sold a bold-faced lie along the way!

As Lynne was telling the audience how we live with the lie that there is never enough it dawned on me just how easy it is to get trapped in that  lie. We do it everyday in what may seem the most innocuous of ways. Consider some of the “not enough” messages we generate on a daily basis, most often subconsciously ;

Not enough sleep
Not enough money
Not enough smarts
Not enough clothes
Not enough skills
Not enough time
Not thin enough
Not handsome enough
Not pretty enough
Not courageous enough
Not witty enough

Not enough, not enough, not enough.

What’s it going to take for every single one of us to stop buying into the lie that there is not enough? That we as a collective whole and as individuals are not enough?

We are enough! You are enough!

Think about it, together as a nation we have banded together many times to raise awareness around important issues. As a matter of fact, we do it daily in the blogosphere. Frankly, I fail to believe that there is not one person out there who has never accomplished something really wonderful.

So you see we are enough and there is plenty of “enough” to go around.

Are you game and ready to stop living the lie of scarcity?

If so, here’s the challenge, for the next 21 days (since it ), I encourage you to stop feeding the lie by watching your own thoughts and feelings. When the “not enough” messages appear come up with a way to reframe them, to swap them out for a more empowering message. Then at the end of the 21 days, please come back here and let us know what happened.

Together we can stop the lie from spreading. Who's with me?

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Saturday, July 28, 2007

Going 8 for 8

Just recently I stumbled upon the neatest little presentation called . I am purposely not going to share what it’s about so please pop on over and take a look. However I will share the great messages I took away…

1) Know who you are – the good stuff often comes from the “who” of who you are.
2) Realize that you matter – don’t ever put your own well-being or feelings on the backburner otherwise you will get squished repeatedly.
3) You can do anything – the only thing that ever really stands in your way of achieving the things you want is your own self.
4) Stretch outside your box – when you stretch, you not only grow, but you open yourself up to bigger potentials.
5) Lighten up & live – fretting the small stuff clouds your view of all the good stuff that’s just waiting for you.
6) Remove the clutter – in order to create space for the cool stuff to make its way to you, you have to remove the clutter first.
7) Set and take action – an intention without action is just a wish that never sees the light of day.
8) Get it done – if you want something, go and get it. You anything you desire with commitment and action.

Now it’s your turn, what’s your take away?

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