Sunday, June 15, 2008

Go Big Or Go Home Question: What Will YOU Say?

I noticed a few times this week that when I was presented with some cool opportunities resistance stuck a foot in them....more like my self saboteur, actually. She came out in full force with her little power suit, high heels, hands on hips, saying loudly, “Who are you kidding? You can't do this!”

Truth be told I actually have two self saboteurs; one I call my dream squasher (the one I just described). My dream squasher is the one who sticks her heels in the concepts of big opportunities and dreams, trying desperately to let the air out of them. She does this so I don't have to be successful.

My other self saboteur is a little girl. Why a little girl? Well, at eight years of age that is when I received the message that I was not good enough and did not deserve good things. That message manifested into a ; fear of losing anything that was important to me because I was not deserving. So when something is really important to me she will come out to remind me that the more important things I have, the more I have to lose.

The one thing I have found, the more I fight either one the louder and stronger they get. Think of a child throwing a tantrum; have you ever noticed that the less attention you give a child throwing a fit the louder they become? Same notion applies here.

Rather than fighting my self saboteurs, rather than telling them to “shut up, sit down, and leave me alone”, I say, “It's OK. It's all going to be a-ok. I promise. I have everything handled and you are going to be OK.” Seems to do the trick every time, because in all actuality (like children) all self saboteurs really want is to be told that everything is going to be OK; that they're really OK (that WE'RE really OK).

Now for the Go Big Go Home Question... The next time your self saboteur rears it's head, what will you say to it? What will you do to comfort it rather than fight it?

(**image courtesy of www.carsonvalleyvitality.com)

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Sunday, June 01, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Kicking Fear in the Backside

I once heard fear described like this:

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Is it false evidence that appears real? Is it something we make up in our heads? Yes, sometimes it is. Sometimes we use as a means to hide behind. Sometimes it is our best friend keeping us out of harms way. Sometimes it is our worst enemy standing in our way of going after what we want or stepping into our own greatness.

One of the keys to kicking fear in the backside is awareness so let's create some awareness right here and now with these Go Big or Go Home questions. (Wait, before you ponder the questions asked I want you to think of a fear that follows you around, one that comes up often.)

What is that fear keeping you from?
What is one thing you would be willing to do (starting today) to kick that fear in the backside?

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Sunday, May 04, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Magic Wands and Pixie Dust

Dear Blog Readers,

I wish to thank you for visiting and reading Make the Most of U. I am extremely grateful for the visits, comments, and contributions. Next month will be Make the Most of U's third birthday so its time to shake things up a bit! In order to do that, I would like the chance to get to know YOU a bit better; I want to know what makes you tick, what your heart says to you, what your values are, and what's most important to you!

Why?

First, because I truly do care about what you think and who you are. Second, I want to continue to provide content that resonants with who, what you are experiencing, and what you are wishing to create for yourselves. So with that, the Go Big or Go Home Question is....

If I was your fairygod coach and with a wave of my magic wand could grant your heart's desire, what three wishes would you make and why?

I look forward to your responses. Here's to you and to making the most of you and who you are!

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Sunday, April 06, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Peace and Grounded

I just realized that I have not asked a “Go Big or Go Home Question” in some time so here is a doozy for you; one that I am actually exploring myself. Beware, it's a two parter.

Who or what do I need to be to create a peaceful and grounded life? What am I willing to do to achieve peace and become more grounded and peaceful?

(Oh, and since I never ask a question, that I am not willing to answer myself, feel free to hop on over to )

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Sunday, February 03, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Question: Living Deeply

Just yesterday I received this awesome question in a that I subscribe to;

“What if we shifted our focus from achieving more to simply living more deeply?” -

What does it mean to you to live more deeply? What would a life lived deeply look like?

I look forward to your thoughts. (To read my response to this question, please .)

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Saturday, September 08, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Justifying, Clarifying, and Explaining

I received this lovely nugget courtesy of . Like most great pieces of information it stopped me in my tracks and made me think or rather question. How often have I justified, clarified, or explained myself? “Plenty o’ times” was my answer.

Then it dawned on me, if I am truly being my authentic self and if all my actions are coming from that place of authenticity (or heart), there is no need to clarify. There is no need to explain. There is no need to justify. It is when I come from that place that I am most confident.

Here is the Go Big or Go Home question (rather questions); when was the last time you felt the need to justify, clarify, or explain yourself away? Who where you being at the time?

Happy pondering and awareness creating!

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Saturday, July 07, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Give

A few weeks back I wrote a on my personal blog that was inspired by something I heard say. He said that we cannot give what we don't have.

Hmmm, that makes sense, doesn't it?

If you don't have time, you can't give time to someone else. If you don't have energy, you can't give energy to an activity or project.

My go big or go home question to you is this; what will you give to YOU starting today so that you will have more than enough to share?

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Sunday, May 13, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: No, Nope, No Way, No More!

Let's face it there is not a person on this earth that does not or has not experienced an . You know the heaviness that creeps in when we are participating in or allowing something that is negative or counter-productive.

The boss that always asks for the impossible.
The friend who takes and takes without giving anything in return.
The colleague who always sees the glass as half empty.
The mess in the closet.
The dirty car.

You get the idea, right?
So here's your Go Big or Go Home Question to ponder...

What energy drain will you say "no, nope, no way, no more" to starting today?

Lightening the load and is important to not only your well-being, but your own forward movement. 

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Sunday, April 01, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Low Battery

It is so easy to get caught in the hustle and bustle of the day-to-day grind. In doing so we often forget to take time for ourselves, to recharge our battery until it is too late and we hit a wall.

What’s ironic, when we are pushing ourselves over the limit we often think we are getting more done. In reality, not only are we not performing at our best, but most times we are not working as effectively and efficiently. (How can we when we are running on an empty battery?)

So here’s the Go Big, Go Home question…

What are you willing to do, starting today, to recharge your battery?

Remember, self care is critical to not only your well-being, but your success.

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Saturday, March 03, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Money Talks

I recently finished an awesome course at called Financial Independence (FI). This course helped me to fully understand what true FI is. It also created more awareness around various obstacles that stand in the way for many in creating FI.

The biggest obstacle….

I have met many people in my travels that grew up with messages around money. Some messages are supportive and wonderful and others are depleting and disempowering. It is the depleting and disempowering ones that grow into long lasting limiting beliefs, either on a conscious or sub-conscious level.

If you have ever felt that financial independence was pie in the sky or was something that happened for others but could never happen for you, I want you to consider the following question…

If money had a voice and could talk what would it say to you?

(Many thanks to our great facilitator who asked this powerful question of the class. You made us all think long and hard about our own limiting beliefs.)

I encourage you to explore any beliefs connected to what came up for you. For example, if money said..."I am not evil", what message or limiting belief have you been holding around money being evil? How can you shift that message into something limitless as opposed to limiting?

Have fun with this one!

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Sunday, February 11, 2007

Go Big or Go Home Questions: Life Changes

When I turned 40 my new mantra became “Go Big or Go Home!” meaning that I was going to take good risks, push my own limits, and move forward with my intentions. This new category is dedicated to going big or going home and asking those questions that will not only spur thought and sharing, but spur forward movement.

There is not a person in this world who does not wish to enhance or even change an area of their life (or several areas). Think about your life for a moment and focus on one area that you feel could stand a bit of a facelift or maybe even an overhaul.

Now for that question…

How will your life improve if that area changes? (List out all the ways it will improve if you were to change that one area.)

Over to you. :)

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